28 Mar

Turning a Blow-Up Into a Growth Opportunity

A blow-up or major conflict is actually an amazing opportunity to practice skills and grow emotional capacity. This is how we as parents and kids both get to widen, as Dan Siegel would say, our “Window of Tolerance.” Times of high tension can lead us to greater self-mastery and the ability to navigate discomfort and anger. It is during these times we  learn to communicate in more effective ways. These emotionally charged moments that seemed filled with despair can actually serve to deepen connection and grow the parent/child relationship. It’s time to embrace and be grateful for these sorts of practice opportunities that will continue to show up for us. How we show up in these moments makes all the difference.

Vashti Summervill
I consider it my life’s work to build community and connection. I am a warrior mom of two teenage girls, a passionate educator and musician. I also have first hand experience parenting a teen through very difficult times. I have embarked on a journey to combine my experiences as an educator, artist and as a parent to help develop programs to support and educate parents, especially those struggling in their relationship with “tweens,” teens and young adults. I am a graduate of The Parent Coaching Institute. I am currently the co-chair of the St. Luke’s Pediatric Family Advisory Council representing families with children hospitalized due to a mental health crisis. I am on the board of the Idaho Suicide Prevention Coalition. I am an Associate Member of the Independent Educational Consultants Association and I am committed to their Principles of Good Practice.

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